SO I wonder why I find myself moving on to the next issue mentally. We are not fighting and I think I should probably just be grateful and be happy. And of course I am, but I think the fact that we still only make love once a week is a glaring unspoken issue.
I haven't brought it up in the last few months because when I did, a while back, N got angry and we never talked about it properly. Every night I drop a hint or make a move but he is tired, or not tired enough, or needs to read or just makes an excuse to get up for a minute. Either way, it's a no. Part of me thinks he doesn't actually notice but then when the once a week comes around there a niggling feeling that he's just getting it over with or making me happy.
Is it a hierarchy of needs situation? Where when one issue is solved, the next greatest one steps up to the plate?
I think I should just decide to be happy, but I'm not putting the silky nighties away just yet :)
I have been reading your blog and I feel very sad for you. I know I don't get to see his side of the story but it sounds like he has ALL the power and control in your relationship and that's not a partnership. Have you tried doing a 180?
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I think could help you. Since what you have been doing hasn't been making things better. And it'll at least allow you to get yourself back.